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About Me and My Approach

I’m a licensed clinical psychologist offering telehealth services to clients across California. Before starting my private practice, I worked as a Clinical Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at the Stanford University School of Medicine. I work with a range of difficulties, including anxiety, OCD, and perfectionism; couples therapy and relational difficulties; executive functioning and ADHD; and the emotional aspect of chronic health conditions (including chronic pain, ME/CFS, and long COVID). I’m also dedicated to supporting therapists and mental health providers in cultivating well-being that extends beyond traditional therapeutic outcomes, guiding them toward a deeper sense of joy and meaning. Lastly, I provide support with shadow work and clean up/grow up work for individuals undergoing processes of reality deconstruction, helping them integrate unconscious patterns and foster psychological growth. As a queer and poly person of color, I’m committed to creating a safe and affirming space for folks with minority identities, including LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, polyamorous/ENM, and neurodivergent individuals. I also speak conversational Mandarin and can conduct sessions in a mix of English and Mandarin, though I ask that clients have a basic working proficiency in English for best results.

In our work together, my hope is to support you in:

  • Developing a deeper understanding of yourself, others, and the human condition;

  • Building a more compassionate and accepting relationship with your emotions and all parts of yourself;

  • Living with more ease and freedom from being driven by thoughts and feelings, allowing greater access to well-being and resilience;

  • Aligning your life with your core values and what brings you purpose, joy, and connection;

  • Tapping into the mind’s natural capacity for growth and healing, including the loosening of rigid, habitual patterns in response to life’s challenges.

My approach is warm, collaborative, and deeply present. I emphasize acceptance, mindfulness, and self-compassion, and I help clients tune into the wisdom of their emotional and bodily experience. In addition to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP), I draw from somatic, psychodynamic, and parts work approaches, as well as contemplative traditions such as Buddhist psychology.

If you’re curious about working together, I offer a free 15-minute consultation to explore whether we might be a good fit. Please reach out using the Contact Me form below.

If therapy doesn’t feel like the right fit for you right now, there’s still a lot you can do on your own to support your healing and growth. I’ve put together a page with resources for working with Long COVID, ME/CFS, and chronic pain, which you can find [HERE], as well as a separate page for more general self-guided work [HERE]. If you have any questions about the materials, you're welcome to email me about it.

Training and Experience

Undergraduate Education: Brown University, RI; B.S. in Neuroscience

Doctoral Education: Columbia University (Teachers College), NY; PhD in Clinical Psychology

Clinical Internship: Harvard Medical School (Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center, Massachusetts Mental Health Center), MA

Post-doctoral Fellowship: Stanford University Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, CA

Prior Experience: Clinical Assistant Professor, Stanford University Department of Psychiatry & Behavioral Sciences, CA;

Clinics worked in at Stanford Medical:

  • Couples and Family

  • ADHD

  • Asian/Asian-American

  • Anxiety and depression

  • Psychosis and bipolar disorder

License number:

PSY32915

Contact Me

Interested in working together?

I offer a free 15-minute consultation so we can see if I’m the right fit for you. You can reach out by calling me at 650-485-1177, filling out the contact form, or emailing me directly at jenniferkaophd@gmail.com. I’ll get back to you within one to two business days.

When reaching out, please keep your message focused on scheduling (and avoid sharing sensitive information, as it’s not encrypted). If we decide to work together, we’ll switch to a secure messaging platform for more privacy.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you soon!